A dad has been slammed for the “weak” punishment he gave to his daughter after he discovered she’d been caught bullying another student.
He and his wife have a 15-year-old daughter together called Lily, who, like her mum, loves fashion and has a huge collection of designer clothes.
“We don’t mean to spoil her, but she is generally well behaved and very academically talented (top of all her classes at school)” he explains.
But, the teachers recently discovered that Lily and her friends had been bullying another girl and that Lily was the ringleader.
The dad said: “If not for Lily’s exceptional academic record, she would have been expelled from school.”
He said that despite getting off lightly at school, the couple still wanted to make sure that their daughter received an appropriate punishment for her actions at home.
“We offered Lily two punishments,” he wrote.
“1) No phone and no contact with her friends for however long we decide or 2) No nice clothes for the same amount of time. She chose the second. My wife padlocked her wardrobe but took out a few plain tracksuits and T-shirts that she rarely wears.”
The dad said Lily was very upset by the punishment because clothes are her life.
“I got a call from my sister today, saying that Lily had phoned her up in ‘floods of tears’ about not being allowed to wear the clothes she loves,” he said.
“Lily told her that she feels like she’s in prison because she isn’t allowed to wear what she wants.
“My sister said Lily had ‘never sounded so upset’. She tried to say that clothing is an ‘expression of her personality’ and that Lily feels vulnerable and insecure in the clothes we made her wear.”
The dad took to Reddit to ask users whether his punishment was too harsh, but the majority of users said they thought the punishment was “weak”.
“We don’t intend to stop the punishment but my sister’s call gave me a lot to think about,” he said.
“Obviously, Lily needs to be punished for what she did, but I don’t like the idea of making our daughter feel upset and vulnerable.”
One user said: “What kind of weak a** punishment is this? This is how you punish a kid when they act out at dinnertime, not when they lead a lynch mob against someone who can’t defend themselves. Take her clothes. Take her phone. Take her f**king hair, too. Your daughter deserves nothing.”
Another explained: “The bigger problem is that this punishment does not relate to the main issue which got her into trouble: the bullying. The parents should find out why she decided to bully this individual, then teach her and punish accordingly.
“A random punishment that’s not even related to what she did is not going to change the core motivations behind her behaviour.”
“It’s too easy to change into different clothes at school. Should’ve taken the phone and no social outings for a month. Plus make her apologise to the girl and her parents” added a third.